How to Help Your Child If They Are In The Cult
I've gotten several email requests from parents who have just discovered that their child's religion is the "no-name" cult.
This page is directed mostly to them. There are many ways you can help your child if they are in the 2x2 cult.
Your kids (no matter their age) have needs. They will go to sources they believe that can fill those needs.
Your Children Will Do What It Takes to Get Their Needs Met
They need: Air, Food, Water, Comfort, Assurance, Stability, Feel good about themselves etc. Of course you probably know these things. But making a point to make sure their needs are taken care of or that they have the life skills to meet these needs will help you be a solid point of moral support in their life.
Help Your Children With Their Needs in a Good Way
You have several things to your advantage in helping your child. First, you are their parent. Also, you already probably have their phone number, address and ways to reach them. Also, the cult is not interested in loving or taking care of your child. They are interested only in their attendance of the meetings and receiving financial support and encouragement from them. I suggest that you read through Mazlow's hierarchical list of needs to understand simply the needs of your child. You can help them with a place to stay if they need it. Connect them to friends. Send them birthday cards and anniversary cards (when appropriate). I highly recommend setting up weekly or every two week phone call habits to see how they are doing. Best to call them on weekdays when they can expect your call and not on meeting days (usually Sunday and Wed) when they are with the cult people. Either record the conversation or write down significant things that are happening in their lives. If they are having a moving party with the cult, maybe some of your friends can come help. This helps break the mind control and breaks the myth they teach that "people of the world are evil and will just use you".
You kids need to be heard. Your ability to listen to them without criticizing them is important. This way when they have an issue and they want to talk about it, they can turn to you. This is about the need to be heard in private. It doesn't mean you may agree with them, but it does mean that you can listen with the intent to really understand what they are going through and what they are trying to say. This will only help you to understand them and their needs better.
Love God, Love your Kids, and Love God Above your Kids
Your kids need to be loved. They need to know that you will always love them. This does not mean that you always agree with them or condone what they are doing. But they need to know that if anything goes wrong, you are still there for them. This does not mean you will enable them to do wrong.
Your kids need to know how to ask questions. The questions you ask them when they talk to you are the questions they ask others when others talk to them. For example, when you go to a hot dog stand, they ask you, "Would you like that with ketchup?". Then when you fix hot dogs for others, you will probably ask your friends you are serving "Would you like that with ketchup." Now take this a step further. When you take your kids to a religious business and ask them "What are your main teachings", then your kids will learn to ask the cult leaders "What are your main teachings?" Now take it even further. When you get answers from people, continue to ask questions like "What do you mean by tithing to the church?", so that your kids will answer further probing questions when they get answers from others. This is called clarification and it is used to combat word redefinition and promotes asking questions to avoid Satan's traps and give you more hope for your future.
You will need to learn about cycles. For example, if you raised your kids in a strict Catholic upbringing, it is very likely they will turn to the Bahai Faith or Unitarians to get the other side of the pendulum swing. If you raise your kids in a loving Christian environment, then they will learn law and love, good judgment and mercy. All kids need a balance. If you are tight-fisted, they will go the other way. They will do what they want no matter what you say. The 2x2 cult is a motley group from many religions (mostly from being raised in 2x2 cult though from indoctrination from youth up) and all of them are ignorant of the basic teachings of Christ. Again, get educated. Even if you never intend on being a Christian, read through the book of Matthew to at least learn what the gospel is. This way when you talk to your kids and they tell you that they believe in Christ, you will be able to ask reasonable questions. 2x2s are a pseudo-christian cult. They claim to believe in Christ, but don't. You need to know what they claim to believe before you an learn to ask the questions that will help your kids see that they are being lied to.
Get educated about your children's life. What is their favorite color? What do they like to eat? What are they doing for fun nowadays? Who are their friends (make a list, identify 2x2s)? When and where do they go to meetings? Who are the 2x2 workers in their fields? Who are the 2x2 elders in their Sunday AM meeting? Do they have any 2x2 friends? If so, who are they? The cult works through isolation and keeping relationships in the cult. They may try to move to break ties with their families. The cult does not like family values or good healthy family relationships. If you can find friends their age that they can relate to, it will help them think outside of the cult man made restrictions.
Learn Their Fears
Learn the cult rules and work around them. If your child is opposed to TVs, then it's not a good idea to watch football (unless they really love football and secretly want to go to your place to watch) or some video. You can plan activities that are wholesome and healthy to avoid the cult thinking. Any good memories that you can build in your relationship that are outside the cult will help them to accept the basic teachings of Christ, which are 1) Love God 2) Love your neighbor as yourself.
Build a Friendship
Your kids need friends to talk to. You will always be their parent, but you better be approachable otherwise they will turn to someone else to confide in. Building a friendship is like building a fire. Start with the simple things that you agree on. Find common ground. If you are a Jew then you believe in the ten commandments. Most Christians believe in keeping 9 of the 10 commandments. That would be some common ground. Keep in regular contact. Listen well. Limit your contact so you don't overwhelm them. Spending too much time suddenly is like throwing a big log on a small fire. It will smother the fire.
"We all have the same spirit."
The "workers" in the 2x2 cult claim that they have a spirit which is present in meetings. They are not kidding. Their is a supernatural evil presence in meetings held by workers who are controlled by this spirit. It is not the Spirit of God. The Spirit of God brings true knowledge, wisdom, understanding, counsel and might, sanctification. It results in love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness. If your kids are not better behaved, it is NOT the spirit of God influencing their life!
Many know about Halloween, ghost and goblins. There is much reference in our society to demons, werewolves and like creatures. We are people who are influenced by the satanic. It is widely known that Satan is against God and is destroying people's lives. So, who is Satan? Could Satan be influencing your child? Does your child have split personalities and speak with an "edge" in their voice? Have they attended religious services or cult meetings where the people claim a "spirit" is present? If so, I seriously recommend you get a Bible (even if you don't love your kids) and start reading about Satan, God and how to protect yourself through faith in Jesus Christ. You may want to read the book He Came to Set the Captives Free which was written by Rebecca Brown who helped another person exit a Satanic cult. You may think these are odd recommendations and that "My son/daughter isn't into that." Think again. You can dismiss the fact that we are human with spiritual influence, but it is scattered throughout our language and culture. Just because a person cannot see viruses and bacteria doesn't mean that they don't exist either. This may be a huge wake-up call for your life. Get saved and help save your kids. Learn how to cast out devils. You may think you're talking to your child, but it may be a demon talking with you through your child.
Gal 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.
Be an Honorable, Pure Vessel Fit for God's Use
Would you go into surgery without sterilizing the tools, washing hands and donning sterile gloves? No, it's serious business and someone's life could be lost. Helping sinners is serious business to prevent an infection (Satan). Souls are being lost.
2Ti 2:20 But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and of silver, but also of wood and of earth; and some to honour, and some to dishonour.
Ways to Help your Daughter or Son in the Cult
There are many good, safe, legal ways to help your child, son or daughter if they are in a cult
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|To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me. - Jesus Christ speaking to Saul, see Act 26:18, see Salvation through Jesus Christ.|