Christians Dating 2x2s
Christians dating 2x2s
If you are a Christian and are dating a 2x2 or suspect you are dating a 2x2, then here are some things that I think you should know about. They are scriptures, things I've seen and my personal opinions about the matter.
2Co_6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
The principle point about being unequally yoked that Paul points out to the Christians is that there is not fellowship.
People Have Needs
People have needs. And needs do not stop when you are married. If those needs are not met, then people start looking elsewhere for those needs to be satisfied. One of those needs is fellowship. And the apostle Paul wrote, "what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"
How would you like to not be able to share the most important things in life with your spouse?
What happens when you cannot share the most important things in life with your spouse? Individuals end up going to talk with someone else about things that are important to them. And then they become better friends with that individual than with their spouse. And then the spouse starts to share their complaints about their husband/wife with their friend. And if they do this with someone of the opposite sex, then adultery can follow. Jealousy can ensue.
Pro 6:34 For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.
And obviously the spouse who isn't being talked to about important things becomes jealous. And they do things that jealous people do. And this makes the other spouse upset. And they say and do things in return. And where does this lead? Divorce.
Even if the spouse talks with someone of the same sex, the wife/husband can become jealous of the time they spend together. And why wouldn't they? I know a 2x2 whose wife divorced him and went off with a woman! That's right. Just because the person a spouse spends their time with is not of the opposite sex, your spouse may get sexually involved with them. How do you think the 2x2 felt who wife ran off with a woman and left him with the kids?
Gal_6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
Marriage Likened to a Yoke
Life is a struggle. It's like an oxen pulling a plow. When plowing, some farmers yoke two animals together so they can both pull the plow. Yokes work best when two animals of the same build are yoked together. I am going to give some extreme examples to illustrate some points about a yoke.
Would you yoke a dog with an ox? Why not? Obviously the dog is really short. How would you bring one side of a yoke to the dog and the other side up to an ox? A dog doesn't have much pulling power compared to an ox. So when an ox pulls on his side, then the dogs side will lag behind. And the ox will end up dragging the dog's side along. The dog will simply be along for the ride; an uncomfortable ride at that. And the ox will end up doing the work of the plowing and of dragging along the dog.
oxen walk at different rates than dogs. So when an oxen takes a step forward, it takes several steps of the dog. Not that the dog could keep up anyway because he cannot handle keeping up with even his side of the yoke.
And a dog weighs much less than an ox. When an ox moves around, the dog will simply get drug around by the yoke around his neck.
Obviously it would be ridiculous to yoke an ox and a dog. Dogs can be yoked together. And even dogs that are yoked together need to be matched. Oxen can be yoked together. Horses can be yoked together. The principle point is that animals need to be yoked together equally for things to work well.
The corollary is that when animals are not equally yoked, it produces complications (to put it mildly).
The divorce rate is about 50% among non-Christians. I've been told that the rate would be higher but people are simply not getting married like they used to. They just go from one sex partner to another without getting married. I've read that the divorce rate among Christians is even higher. The divorce rate among 2x2s is really high. Over half of the married 2x2s that I knew as a child are no longer married.
You may say to yourself, there are many married folks in the field. Yes, there are. The WORKERS need these people to live off of. And many 2x2s now are divorced and remarried. So it's their 2nd, 3rd or fourth marriage.
Another thing to think about is that many 2x2s who divorce quit coming to meetings after they see how the FRIENDS have treated them. Divorce is a very difficult life experience. I think it may be more traumatic than a death in the family. So when the FRIENDS treat a person horribly as they go through a divorce (and the FRIENDS can get really ugly), then they quit going to meetings and are no long on the 2x2 FIELD LIST. Unless you keep the FIELD LISTS and anaylyze them each year, you may not see the pattern. I mean, who think of doing these things when you are PROFESSING especially when you are told by the WORKERS to throw away your old FIELD LIST when you get the new one?
Divorce Rate is Highest for Christians Married to 2x2s
The divorce rate is high enough for 2x2s who become Christians and were married to 2x2s. People who have been married for 40 years will separate and/or divorce their spouse. They are not content to live with them anymore. I have seen this with my own eyes. It has affected my own family.
And the divorce rate between Christians and cult members is even higher. I think it's about 90%. I've talked with people who have left the cult and have kept track of the field lists.
1Co 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
If the spouse moves out and is no longer content to live with them, then 2x2s are very likely to divorce the person professing to be a Christian.
1Co 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
If a Christian woman leaves her husband, she is to remain unmarried. Some people say to themselves "If it doesn't work out, I can always divorce and remarry." This is not a Christian teaching.
Christians Who are Dating Need to Still Honor Their Parents
Exo 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.
If you go dishonor your parents, then you are breaking a commandment of God. This is sin. And if you don't repent of your sin, then you go to a lost eternity.
If you don't believe in keeping the commandments of God, then you don't beleive in God. If that's the case, you should announce to your friends and family that you no longer believe in God. It's better to tell the truth than live as a hypocrite and hurt children who look to you as a Christian.
Your Christian Friends
If you are dating a 2x2, then you are very likely to lose all your good Christian friends. I have known a woman who knowingly was dating and living with a 2x2. Several people who knew her since she was very young did not want their kids talking with her. They didn't want her bad influence on their kids. Are these parents right to do this? What does the Bible say about bad influences?
1Co 5:1 It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife. And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you. For I verily, as absent in body, but present in spirit, have judged already, as though I were present, concerning him that hath so done this deed, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, to deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus. Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump? Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us: therefore let us keep the feast, not with old leaven, neither with the leaven of malice and wickedness; but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.
Sin is like leaven in that it that just as leaven spreads in the dough and influences the whole lump of dough, in the same way false doctrine, lies, deceit and manipulation spread like a cancer among the body of believers. It has to be cut out of the body to ensure the survival of the body.
The sound reason that Christian and even non-Christian parents tell their kids not to be friends with people who are professing to be Christians but are dating cult members is that they don't want their kids influenced by these people. They don't want their kids to be rebelious. They want a good future for their kids. They don't want their kids unequally yoked.
New Friends for Christians Dating 2x2s
If you profess to be a Christian and continue dating a 2x2, then many of your friends will change. You will most likely gather friends around you who tell you what you want to hear. And they will probably make decisions based on things you tell them. And based on what you tell them, they will become prejudice against people who warn you with scriptures. It will create a division in the church.
New Friends are No Friends
The people who claim to be your friends and tell you lies to justify you, are they really friends? Is this what friends do?
And when you get divorced as most people do, then where will they be then?
And if these friends are not friends to Christians who have obeyed God, then how will they treat you when they fell like it when you have not obeyed God but have manipulated them?
One of the hardest things for Christians dating 2x2s is holidays: Christmas, Easter etc.
If your parents are Christians and didn't bless or approve of your marriage (no doubt they would not), then you probably won't have your family around on holidays. The emptiness of holidays without families is very real. Holidays don't come around very much, but you can probably say goodbye to new memories. You may end up sitting in a family room of 2x2s around holiday time trying to fellowship with 2x2s who don't celebrate Easter or Christmas. Do you want this lonely feeling? Or do you think that you are special and this will not happen to you? I don't know your beliefs, but I do want you to know that some who have professed to be Christians suffer horribly on holidays because they are not with their family and they only have the memories of how their actions have created division in the church and in their own family.
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|To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me. - Jesus Christ speaking to Saul, see Act 26:18, see Salvation through Jesus Christ.|