Bitterness. What is it? And are you Bitter?

"Bitterness. You're just bitter," the 2x2s say to people who leave because they are upset. When you leave the 2x2 religion as you try to find the truth, they claim you are bitter, as if it is your fault you are leaving. But is there a fault in leaving a cult? No. There is no sin in that. But how do you deal with their accusations?

As with other things on this website, I am writing out what I've learned from the Bible. So even as I write this page, I open up E-Sword (free download) and do a search on keywords: bitter, bitterness etc to learn about it. And I think to myself, I certainly don't feel bitter, and it's sure been a long time since someone has accused me of being bitter. Perhaps they think I'm happy and content now? Hah. I refuse to base self-judgements on how followers of the workers feel about me.

First, let me say that many 2x2s casually throw out accusations of people who leave as "They are bitter" for several reasons. Remember: 2x2s do things for effect. Not out of Godly principle.

  • The workers say it. Another popular phrase of workers, "They are mental."
  • It sounds good to them.
  • They copy the workers without thinking if it is even true
  • It makes it look like you are living in sin and so should be ignored, shunned and discounted - all things the workers want
  • It defames you
  • It may momentarily make you pause (in which case they may feel they must be right)
  • It helps them avoid thinking about all their doubts about the workers
  • It brings people together (the friends of the workers) and separates them from you
  • Even an accusation makes it look like you are at fault (in their eyes)
  • It makes other of the friends discount what you say.
  • In their eyes, it keeps people from enquiring as to why you really left.

Bitterness - Really, What is it?

Gen_27:34 And when Esau heard the words of his father, he cried with a great and exceeding bitter cry, and said unto his father, Bless me, even me also, O my father.

From this verse, the word "bitter" is used to describe the type of cry of Esau. A cry of remorse and sadness. I don't see people as leaving the cult as remorseful of not staying in it or failing to keep the rules. Once people get out, they typically feel huge relief. They feel relief even if they don't join another church. They breathe a huge sigh of relief and wonder at the incredible burden lifted off their minds. They didn't realize to what extent they were in such a burdensome mental fog.

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