Surviving a Divided Home

Surviving a Divided Home

Divided Homes are Tough

Surviving a divided home is tough. Everybody experiences storms in life, and they reveal your foundation, whether you have faith in God or not. This isn't a small storm. It's not going away. You will have to buckle down and face it head on.

Divided Homes - End of Your Rope

Many people reach the end of their rope in a divided home or marriage. Whether they should remain married comes into question frequently and with great urgency.

Some have said, "When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." I haven't seen it work that way. If you haven't "tied the knot" before you reach the end of your rope, I believe you're going to just slip off the end. Miracles do happen through faith and God's power, but if you cannot believe in God's counsel to avoid a bad marriage, then why would you turn to God after your marriage sours? People do repent, and God is merciful.

Divided Homes - Beliefs to Comfort

Here are some things that I think are important when you've assessed your marriage relationship to a 2x2. Perhaps you didn't do you research into your spouse's faith, didn't think it was relevant, were madly in love, made a foolish choice, whatever...here you are, married to someone in a cult. What do you do? I believe it's all about what you believe, not what you do. I believe the "what you do" part comes from what you believe. Here's some things that if you believe them, then I believe it will help you.

Witnessing

You cannot save other people. You cannot change their beliefs. I've talked to many divorced men who thought they could change their wives. And divorced women who thought they could change their husbands. Don't ask me, I've not been married nor divorced. Talk to the divorced people. Many have wanted to save their spouses and marriage, but could not. The Bible does not require us to save others. If there was something magic or miraculous to say, it would have been said already. The Bible does instruct us to witness. We can witness and God is the one who saves. Knowing our limitations relieves impossible burdens of feeling like we are responsible to make sure someone gets saved or the marriage is preserved.

The marriage may fall apart. It may change. It may get better. It may get worse. But I believe that if you focus on doing what God tells you to do and leaving the rest to him, that you will rest better.

Good Conversation From Pure Heart

Jas 3:10 Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.

Spouses listen to the other spouse's conversation and make judgments as to motive. James is clear that envying and strife in the heart comes out in the tongue. The casual cutting remark can wound deep in times of stress. It make take months or years to heal. If your spouse is in the cult, they likely won't know how to handle conflict nor regard the Bible's instruction regarding it. A good conversation reflects a heart of love. Caring about your PROFESSING spouse when they are so cruel is a powerful witness.

Divided Homes - Badmouthing NON-PROFESSING Spouse

WORKERS typically encourage and listen to PROFESSING people who bad-mouth their NON-PROFESSING spouses. I think this is because they want to reinforce that people who don't PROFESS are "BAD". Also, I know some PROFESSING people will seek out divorced people in their FIELD and tell their side of the story in order to gain sympathy and support.

A Time of Suffering

1Pe 3:13 And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good? But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled; but sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ. For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing. For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit:

You will probably feel like you are going to die (being put to death in the flesh), but if you give up your life, you will save it (quickened by the Spirit). Marriage isn't the romantic fantasy conjured by many on wedding days. Vain imagination is not your friend. Imagine being "stuck" with someone who knows all your strength and flaws and uses those to inflict wounds, make you go crazy and drive you nuts. Imagine they believe they are among the CHOSEN ONES, in the ONLY WAY to heaven and are full of themselves, never repenting. Some of you who are married to 2x2s may feel that isn't far off the mark in several areas.

Divided Homes - 2x2s Typically Reject Counseling

Most 2x2s I know will reject counseling. They don't want a Christian counselor for sure. Especially one who knows about the 2x2 cult. The Bible encourages good counsel. King David had counselors. Jesus Christ is the greatest counselor.

If you are married to a cult member, then marriage counseling may be refused (not always)by your spouse because they don't want (and the WORKERS AND OVERSEERS don't want) their heretical beliefs investigated and exposed. Some 2x2s who go to counselors don't tell the counselor that they are in a cult, preferring to minimize

Divided Homes - Divided Marriage - Marriage Vows

2x2s believe they are God's chosen and have no qualms with breaking marriage vows. Of course, if they don't believe God is the ultimate authority and reject the clear Bible, then it should come as no surprise when they break their wedding vows. Of course it is a surprise. What a huge hypocrisy to claim to be the LIGHT OF THE WORLD, but they hold their wedding vows in contempt. I think that a large part of this is that they don't view their UNPROFESSING spouse as a real human or child of God. Kind of like how evolutionists believe people are just dust and not eternal souls; so they don't value or respect human life and may view themselves or their race as superior and others not worthy of their time or consideration.

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