Marriage with No Love
No love in a marriage with a 2x2 can make for a difficult marriage.
Some people fantasize that their marriage to the person they claim to love so much (and supposedly the 2x2 loves them) will be a beautiful relationship forever. But they don't realize that 2x2 love grows cold and it wasn't love in the first place. Yes, I don't think it ever was love in the beginning, certainly not the love of God.
Please stop and think what a marriage would be like when they feel they don't love you any more. What would you do when they quit performing marital duties (sex)? What happens when they lie about you behind your back? How are you going to handle that? And all the warnings you probably have received, how did you respond and what do you think about those warnings now?
What will your friends say when you remind them that they said everything was going to be OK? Where are your friends now when you face the hardships? What hope are you going to have in your marriage when you realize that they despise you because you've found out their real beliefs? Does your optimism fade? If you have trouble getting through one day, how will you get through the rest of your marriage with "til death do us part"?
Late Nights at Work
It is common for spouses to spend late nights at work, trying to avoid coming home to deal with a cold relationship. Niceties are strained and things you said with a hearty smile before.. well now they're totally fake and other people see it. A bad marriage is like trying to hide perfume on your wrist. Everybody notices it.
Children or Kids
If having a bad marriage isn't bad enough, try adding children. And the children aren't stupid (most of the time). They see what's going on, and this is hard enough on them. Children are often used as pawns by controlling spouses and used against the other spouse. Who wants to go through this? Many people choose to stick through a bad marriage for the sake of the kids until the kids have left the nest.
The 2x2 beliefs show through in marriage. Some people claim that if their spouse says "I believe in God" that this is good enough evidence they are a "Christian". But the 2x2 beliefs, whether they still go to meetings or not, come out. The air of superiority, the unbroken pride, the unrepentant lifestyle of sin, the unbelievers way of thinking and making decisions...all this cannot be hidden.
What is Love?
Love is the fulfilling of the commandments. And you will have no excuse for marrying a 2x2 here. The 2x2s don't believe in the commandments of God, because....well, they don't believe in God. The first commandment, to love God with all heart, soul, mind and strength. This commandment established the love of a person's life, the moralities etc. But without this, there is no sound basis, no standards of love. So this is a major flaw for a marriage before it even begins. Secondly, God commands that we love our neighbor as ourself. Not more, not less, but equally. And since the 2x2s don't believe in this, you have the pride, selfishness etc. Because of the 2x2s rejection of God's word, you have no sound basis for how the 2x2 will treat their spouse and no basis for equality.
Does this sound like a happy marriage?
Rules, Habits, Regulations
Absent of the love of God, you end up with rules and regulations imposed by the spouse. The come out like this: "you do the dishes,I will do the garbage", "you do this, I do that" and so these rules go on and the marriage grows cold and lust is replaced with rules. Soon the spouse is dissatisfied with the marriage. Why? Because God holds people accountable. If you claim to take God's name, but reject him then...you should read it for yourself:
Exo 20:7 Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain; for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.
Deu_5:11 Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain: for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.
God takes away our joy if we claim to love God but reject His word. To reject God's word, his commandments, his counsel, is to reject God. And God will judge us if we take his name and reject Him.
The End of Lust
The end of lust is hatred. While lust can be the motive that draws two people together, it is the same thing that will drive them apart. Lust ends in death, and very often the death of a "marriage".
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